ورقة عاملة أزمة

هل يستطيع أحد أن يختار الجزء الذي يحبه من الحياة ويمحو البقية؟

ليتنا نستطيع.. ولكن الحياة شيء ما متعدد الأبعاد والأعماق والطبقات، إذا اخترت أن تعيش في ركن منه سجنت نفسك فيه وحرّمت عليها خصائص الحياة حلوها ومرها
الحياة أبيض وأسود، حلو ومر، فرح وحزن، ألم ونمو .. كل شيء في الحياة له دور من نسمة الهواء وحتى السم ـ لا مكان بين سطوري هنا لمناقشة الاستغلال أو سوء الاستخدام
إذا حاولت قصر حياتك على الأبيض والحلو والفرح فقدت المغزى من الحياة وفقدت الحياة وفقدت النمو، فالحياة تغير وتطور ونمو، إذا نزعت منها إحدى طرفي المعادلة انتفت المعادلة وانتفت الحياة

ما دعاني لكتابة هذه السطور عنوانه: ورقة عاملة أزمة
هناك اتجاه عام لرفض الزواج وعقد الزواج والتحرر منه، سألت نفسي “لماذا؟” أليس العقد شريعة المتعاقدين؟ يعني ورقة بيضاء يبني حروفها وسطورها الطرفين معاً؟ فلماذا الأزمة؟
مثلها مثل جواز السفر وشهادة الميلاد وبطاقة الهوية ورخصة القيادة … الخ مجرد ورقة لها دور في المجتمع

فجاءني هذا الخاطر: ربما يكون رفض الورقة محاولة للبناء والاستقرار في إحدى أركان الحياة، محاولة لاختيار ما يعجبنا من سلة الحياة والتخلص من البقية.. بعيداً عن القلق والمواجهات والمناقشات، بعيداً عن تحمل المسئوليات “فلأتحمل ما أستطيع أو ما أريد والباقي يمكن التخلص منه”

المهم أني أعشق الحياة بحلوها ومرها بفرحها وحزنها بألمها الذي به توصلت لما أنا عليه اليوم، وأتمنى أن أشارك حياتي مع عاشق للحياة مثلي ولكن عشق الحياة مثلما رددت كثيراً يتطلب شجاعة وإيمان وحب وقوة وصلابة ومرونة

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  1. If this paper will be the prison we lock each other inside while we don’t really want to be together, then i am certainly against this paper

    I believe that a very well based love won’t have such a problem, the paper will be useless for it because the two parts won’t need it

    the problem is when dealing with traditional life, you share life with someone you don’t really know and can’t fully trust, so you need a contract to guarantee that he won’t deceive you or let yo down later

    if the other part is not willing to have the bad side of life with me “willingly” and by his own well, i don’t want a paper to force him do so, i better give him the choice to leave away, no need for forced support

    I believe that those who refuse to write this paper are not fully confident of their ability to fulfill it, that is because they don’t have enough motive to give for the other side, this enough motive has no other name but love i guess

  2. A paper is a paper not a locker! It is us who lock or unlock ourselves.. (Well, sometimes it turns out to be..)

    There is a use of the paper.. it works as an organizer (like other papers) whether between the two partners or between them and the society.. why live as unaccepted by the society and trying to hide only because a piece of a paper??

    Your third point is not true.. papers do not guarantee that someone will not deceive you or let you down…

    I do agree with the 4th point totally..

    The paper does not force you to fulfill what’s in it, like you said, no need of anything that is done by force..

    As for your last point concerning motive vs love.. I don’t know.. it makes me thoughtful…

  3. Hello Ensana:
    This is a very important and brave post. It may contradict eastern norms, religious values, but it touches the heart of reality. I am hopeful too to find my soul mate to live with her a fruitful constructive life full of love, compassion and warmth whether with a paper or not.
    Allow me to comment more fully again, please.

  4. Waiting for your full comment:)

  5. There are people who chose to get married and there are people who chose to swing, there are celibate people and there are people who are addicted cheaters, there are people who are single and searching ….. etc. However I never actually heard of someone who got IT in the end, not even once.

    so does IT even exist? or is it another one of the numerous illusions pulled before our eyes by the forces of entropy 6.

    I know that this suggestion always causes negative emotions, I apologize, but I am very given to truth, so it might be positive to think about it after all. might we get somewhere.

    and in the end I myself couldn’t stop searching for that proverbial other half or soul mate thing, no matter what desperate or celibate thoughts I fool myself with. it seems to be a most effective and powerful neuronal program inside everybody, obvious it is to say it serves the purpose of evolution and reproduction, but it also makes everbody miserable even if they got eveything else right, am I wrong?

    It seems impossible to forget about the taste of being in true love (even if you never tried it you still know what it is like !!!!!), being so drenched in that opium that life actually vibrates in all crazy colors and sounds and breaths with all kinds of nurturing and heavenly joys, you are loved and taken care of, everything is absolutely fine now, life seems so beautiful and full then, the surroundings become vibrant and intense and consciousness becomes lucid and serene, one gesture the loved one makes would trigger enough joy and excitement to put your head in cloud 9 and your feet deep into the earth …

    My point is; I am sure this image I am drawing would make any healthy human being crazy with remembrance and yearning, if this experience or plane of being is hard to give up and impossible to find, why is it there? can you understand how vast the abyss-inside this paradox causes?

    I say it is a trap and I say one must give up searching for that thing altogether , one must take what is there and try to make something of it, and of course be ready for any negative outcome that might occur, betrayal, abuse rejection, whatever, maybe we human beings were never meant to truly TRULY love each other, not so deep…. I hope I am wrong after all

  6. I think what you’re saying is what everybody tells himself at some point.. but again like YOU said, we cannot stop dreaming and searching for fulfillment through love.. by love, through love we were created.. by love we survive.. without love, we’re trying to live..


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